(Karra helps our guest’s grandson out with a problem he had been having with bullying and how best to deal with that. She has faced the same sibling rivalry that the grandson was going through so on both matters she was able to offer some helpful advice.) 

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Karra: okay, questions.

Shane: which one are you?

Karra: I’m the healer, I’m Karra.

Shane: okay, all right you know how people get hurt….

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: and other people take care of them?

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: I’m not saying this is everybody but like okay if every time they get hurt and other people take care of them, sometimes I think if everybody takes care of them every time they get hurt they won’t learn to do it on their own.

Karra: it depends on what the hurt is. For example, if you were to severely reconfigure a limb, would you be able to take care of that?

Shane: I know there’s some situations you have to do it but there’s other situations where you can do it by yourself or other people can help you do it and it just gets me because I’m not saying for everybody, like sometimes little kids want attention and some other people want attention.......

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: so every time they do it they won’t let their mom or dad to take care of them. I don’t understand that, after they get older or something like that and they….

Karra: and they continue to rely on other people to help them.

Shane: yeah.

Karra: why?

Shane: I don’t know.

Karra: it is because they do not want to face and pay the piper as it were, they don’t want to face the music.

Shane: okay, if they don’t have a choice and there’s nobody around to help them…..

Karra: they will be quite capable of handling it themselves. I think you’re asking the question for a specific reason.

Shane: I’ve seen it happen many times and sometimes it gets me irritated.

Karra: then learn from that for your self-betterment.

Shane: I do.

Karra: uh-huh, that’s good but I think you are asking because somebody in your life irritates you in that way.

Shane: sometimes, sometimes not.

Karra: that person is learning to readjust themselves. My little sister is a great one of having good insight sometimes and I can read between the lines too very easily.

Shane: it’s not one person, it’s several persons.

Karra: it is a group of persons.

Shane: yes.

Karra: uh-huh, but they are learning to grow.

Shane: sure don’t seem like it.

(Skip laughs)

Skip: I knew that was coming.

Karra: yep, they are.

Skip: uh-huh.

Shane: I got another question.

Karra: okay.

Shane: I’ve seen this happen several times also.

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: like they'll be mean to their little brothers or sisters….

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: they hurt them or something and make them cry and then they act like they got hurt too and they start crying too because they don’t want to get in trouble?

Karra: you’ve answered your question.

Shane: but why would they do that? Because they already know they’re going to get in trouble either way and they start crying, why do that?

Karra: it is to lessen the punishment or to attempt to lessen the punishment. Yes, any questions?

Russ: did you ever do that Karra?

Karra: actually I never hurt my little sister as there is the age difference. I was already at university when she was born.

Shane: so you were old enough to know better.

Karra: correct.

Shane: and understand.

Karra: correct.

Shane: okay.

Karra: it is not something that comes with age and wisdom.

Shane: well, what I notice a lot is the closest ones….

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: the closest ones in the family fight a lot and the ones that are far apart don't fight as much, they get along a lot better than the closest ones.

Karra: it is because that the older ones are more aware of what is being taught to them and they recall how they felt whereas if they're separated by a year or two it is not so easy to see the difference.

Shane: true.

Karra: the further apart, the more easier and more tolerant an individual is to see what was and see themselves within the person and to remember from the person’s behavior, action and injuries of their own. Yes?

Russ: sort of like how our children do?

Karra: uh-huh. Okay……

Russ: because Klarra takes care of David and Michael.

(Ed. note: Karra's younger daughter who take care of the twins of Karra and myself)

Karra: yes, there is that age difference.

Russ: right.

Karra: and I know Alana would take care of any of my children, any of her sisters and brothers.

(Karra's oldest daughter)
 
Russ: right.

Shane: I’ve got a question.

Karra: uh-huh.

Shane: you know how people like when they first meet you and don’t know you and they already look down on you, why is that?

Karra: it’s something that I think you would call……..well first of all they don’t know you, how do you fix it?

Shane: I don’t pay no attention to it but it still bugs me.

Karra: obviously you do pay attention to it because it does bug you.

Shane: oh, I didn’t know that.

Karra: then say to yourself, “okay, if they look down on me, so what. I am who I am, take me as I am not as you want me to be.

Shane: well they don’t know who you are so they can’t really say nothing bad.

Russ: well Shane, each of us have our own special qualities. No matter how anybody views you or what you do or what their opinion is of you, you have special things apart from them that they don’t have or never will have sometimes.

Shane: hmmm.

Russ: and you have to look at your strong points and realize that you're special for various reasons and they don’t understand those reasons.

Shane: all right.

Karra: okay, thank you.

Russ: thank you love.

Karra: you’re welcome hon. Okay, I will see you later.

Shane: goodbye.

Karra: and have a fun evening everyone.

Shane: you too.